Random Thoughts: It's free for everyone, but YOU.

I love it when I'm reading an article or blog and come across someone expressing my thoughts to a t.  Demetria Lucas has been writing an advice column on dating and relationships featured on The Root for sometime.  Recently a woman wrote in about finding a man that is husband material, although she's currently dating a guy that she describes as not being marriage material and "a 'street guy' who has kids but doesn't seem passionate about them."  Demetria's answer focused on the obvious question of, why is she with him.  But towards the end of the piece she hit on something that ate away at me like crazy when I was "actively" trying to date when I was younger.

Men complain that women will waste time with men who are of little value, giving them relationship benefits with no titles, and then suddenly decide they want a good guy and want him to put a ring on it. And the guys are rightly thinking, "For what? You want me, a man of substance, to step up to the plate, but for a man of less quality you have no requirements? Please."

This is one of those things that it seems like women can say to other women, but if a man were to say it he would be seen as a misogynist.


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My Life As One Of The Most Hated Men In America

A friend of mine recently sent me this blog entry titled, The Short End Of The Stick: Women, Height Preferences, and Hypocrisy.  When I originally saw the title, I was definitely suspicious for two reasons.  One, the friend who sent it has playfully chided me about my height along with her love of Vince Vaughn's height.  She's also thrown around the term, Napoleon complex, once or twice.  Secondly, considering the subject I assumed that me along with my vertically challenged brethren would be the butt of yet another joke at the expense of women and taller men.  I must say that I was pleasantly surprised.  Not only did the blog not ridicule, but it actually read like a blog entry that I have kicked around in my head many times.

She's No Longer My "Girlfriend"?

Today I was in the middle of my usual online travels when I happened to come across a fairly popular blog post.  The author apparently confused or conflicted with what to call his girlfriend or for that matter, what anyone in a straight and exclusive relationship should call the person that they are dating.  Now, I must admit that throughout my years on this earth I have been called many things, but normal or average guy haven't been one of them.  I'm not saying that's a good thing or a bad thing, but I am far from garden variety.   So when I ask this question it's partly due to the fact that I genuinely don't understand what is wrong.  But, since when, and for that matter why, have the terms "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" been considered bad things?

Can Our Generation Be Married?

That's the question that popped back into my head after stumbling across this blog about what I would call the death of black love.

I posed this question on a message board a few years ago and thought, what better place than here to give it a second shot and get different perspectives?

How do you feel about this statement . . .

"Love doesn't mean anything. But commitment and being team players is what's important. Work towards a common goal and a marriage will last forever." - ?

Also, how do you feel about parents who stay together for the children in non-abusive relationships?